During my childhood days, my mother used to read children stories like Jack and the Beanstalk, and The Ugly Duckling before I go to bed. I also loved reading fairy tales written by German authors like Hans Christian Andersen and the Grimm Brothers. Some of which are even made into motion pictures such as Cinderella, Snow White and the Seven Dwarves, and the Little Mermaid. I even dreamed to live luxuriously someday like the kings and queens did in the story. But that’s far in reality. All these stories finished happily. Some of them even have the same ending like “the prince and the princess got married and they lived happily ever after”. Familiar isn’t it? But was this true? Was it happening in our real lives or it is just fictional? Do you believe that after marriage, a couple will forever experience happiness?
Marriage is called the union of two individuals. It also refers to a set of cultural patterns. It is commonly defined as a partnership between two members of opposite sex known as husband and wife. A man and a woman entering this kind of relationship should be well-prepared. As I heard from married individuals, marriage is one of the crucial parts of their lives. Why crucial? During this stage, both husband and wife undergo certain adjustments. They will share the same room. They will be starting a new life on their own as married couples. When they will be living on a house separate from their parents, another adjustment is done. There will be no mothers to cook food for them. The wife will now take care of all the household chores – unless she will be hiring a maid to do it for her. She will do the cleaning, the laundry, cooking, budgeting and everything. If both couples have their own careers, they will now share their salaries with each other for the electric bill, the water bill, and other expenses. Unlike when they are still single, they can do whatever they want to do with their money. They can shop all the clothes they like. They can buy everything they wished to.
Couples also undergo the stage of parenthood. Every couple can not escape it. Having children in the family is difficult. It comes with great responsibility. Both the husband and the wife must be ready to face the consequences. They should already have the knowledge, perhaps, on how to race kids. First time parents are usually excited and hard up in caring for their new-born baby. And as the child grows old, the couple will now begin to experience the real problems of child-racing. Let us begin on the child’s education. As the degree of education increases, it will mean higher amount of money. As soon as the child turns to an adolescent, more and more problems arise. That’s what I observed and what I have read.
Now, is the phrase “and they live happily ever after” still true? The answer is a big NO. This thing happens only on fairy tales and not in reality. Problems can’t be stopped from coming. As long as you’re alive, you will still experience tribulations. You may be happy today but depressed on the next day. That’s what life is. It is not merely fantasy or an illusion but a continuous struggle. And that’s what I believe.