There is a lot of controversy over the status of children of gay fathers. Some say the children struggle more than other kids. Yet, others say that the children excel more due to being put in the spotlight. Also, there has been some speculation over when the fathers should come clean to their kids. They worry about damaging their self-esteem and grieving over their loss of innocence. The fathers who donâ€™t discuss this issue with their kids are concerned that they will lead deeply conflicted lives and present parenting styles that constitute psychological distance. The parenting styles are not much different though. The fathers understand that they are being watched from a distance more than traditional fathers are. Their movements and actions are criticized at a much higher rate. How they deal with situations and react to problems are being looked at by traditional parents. Normally, gay fathers try to create a more stable home environment and more positive relationships with their children than traditional heterosexual parents.
They provide more nurturing and in having less traditional parenting attitudes.There have been two studies over the years combating these issues. One is Green, 1978, and the other was Weeks, Derdeyn, and Langman, 1975. They used the same psychological tests on both studies for the children, but came up with the same conclusion that the parents sexuality has little to do with the sexuality of their offspring. But, there is a problem with each of those studies. In the Weeks, Derdeyn, and Langman study, the researchers only tested two children. And in the Green study, the kids were kin of only lesbian mothers or children of successful sex-change surgery, not gay fathers. So, does this make the studies true? Some say yes because gay fathers are characterized enough with the heterosexual field. They are enough alike for the studies to be conclusive. The purpose of this short story was to inform the public about how children deal with growing up with gay fathers. It explained the important decisions that the dads have with deciding when and how to define their sexual orientation to their children.
The authors expresses their feelings in this article as being submissive to the facts. They understand that there was a little research done on the issues but that the findings were still conclusive.I do believe there was a lot of truth to this essay. I donâ€™t personally know any homosexual fathers to relate on this particular level. But I do think they do struggle with society with the decisions they make. The public is usually quick to judge anybody who is different. This causes them to be put in sight more often. And when these decisions involve their children, and the way the children are raised, there is a lot more at risk. The wrong decision could mean a lot of psychological problems later in life. I think that it would majorly depend on the maturity of the kid of exactly when and how the fathers explain their own sexual orientation to them. I do feel more educated on the subject now that I have read this short essay.
The authors did a great job explaining the issues that are involved and the research that has been done to find answers. When I was done reading this, I had a lot of empathy towards gay fathers and their children. I thank God I donâ€™t have to personally deal with this situation or any situation like this. If I did, I would have to put a lot of thought into the way I handled when and how I explained my homosexuality to my kids. I do think if my kids grew up in that circumstance, it would teach them to not be so quick to judge others. Everybody is different in their own way. And if they lived in a home where different was the standard, they would understand more easily about being the odd one. I have a lot of respect for gay fathers for this fact.