Gay parents are still unaccepted in modern society, even though homosexuality is becoming more and more accepted. Homosexual parents are believed to be sex craved deviants who would force their own sexual orientations on their children. However, parents of the same-sex are no more likely to shove a certain way of life down their child’s throat than a straight couple is. Homosexual parents can be as loving and care for their children as emotionally and financially well as a mother/father pair. When there is a stereotypical role of either a mother or father that falls empty, a homosexual parent can fill in the role as best as possible, meaning that having both a mother and father is unnecessary as long as there is always someone there for the child.
Although homosexuals can be great parents, they fall behind a male/female relationship in the fact that they cannot produce their own legitimate offspring without help from science or another person, but they can still do their best and raise their children acquired through other means as well as a straight couple could. Gay parenting is just one of the many battles that certain homosexual couples have to fight. In many straight and traditional couples’ eyes, what the gay couples are doing is considered just plain unnatural. However, homosexual parents possess the ability to love and care for their children just as easily as the traditional mother and father duo, although, on their own a gay couple cannot ensure the continuance of the existence of mankind.
Same-sex parenting is feared to have an effect on a child’s sexuality. The conclusion made by those against gay parents seems to be that the child will also turn out homosexual. However, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics, “[n]one of the more than 300 children studied to date have shown evidence of gender identity confusion, wished to be the other sex, or consistently engaged in cross-gender behavior,” (APA 2012), meaning that the likelihood of a child with gender identity issues is very slim, even with homosexual parents. There has not been a noticeable difference between gay and straight and parents as to how many children turn out to be homosexual either; for both types of couples, the children are generally found to heterosexual. With this information, the American Psychology Association determined that homosexual parents do not affect the sexuality of their children any more than heterosexual parents do.
An argument used against gay parenting is that homosexuality is unnatural. Gay couples are believed to be unnatural because “We live in a world demarcated by two genders, male and female. There is no third or intermediate category. Sex is binary.” (Staver, n.d.) A common belief is that parents must sexually fit together in physical nature to be considered a true and loving couple. However, two people can have a loving relationship based off of non-sexual factors too. Whether or not the parents fit together through nature is irrelevant because all that should truly matter is whether or not the parents can effectively care for their child[ren].
Four different gender boundaries are believed to be needed while raising a child. Some people believe that only both a mother and a father can fill certain roles essential to a child’s life. The first boundary believed to be necessary is “a role model of a stable heterosexual marriage.” (Liberty Counsel, 2012) The ideal for a typical American family is practically living only in the past. This boundary for a normal, happy-go-lucky family is an outdated thought in today’s society when divorce rates of these stable heterosexual marriages are increasing by leaps with every year, leaving behind broken families. Many children of heterosexual parents are also born out of wedlock without the example of a happy marriage. Should these children also be told that their parents are setting poor examples? Although a marriage between a mother and father would have been setting a great example for children fifty years ago, in modern society the way that families are created and the way that they interact with each other have changed. The need for this boundary has started to decline with the direction that society has gone.
The second boundary believed to be essential while raising children is “A role model of a mother and father coordinating co-parenting.” (Liberty Counsel, 2012) Although the belief is that parents must cooperate together and make all decisions involving their child, this is once again an outdated belief. Many children are born out of wedlock and are raised completely by only one of their parents to later on become a success. A man who can be used as an example of this is the pro basketball player Michael Jordan. He was raised completely by a single mother and later became a star in the sports world.
Even though he was a product of two straight parents, he was still raised with only one parent, so there was no input besides his mother’s. With a gay couple, there is input coming from two people, so the question is whether or not there is a difference because the co-parenting is done by two people of the same gender. Regardless of whether or not the ideas of the parents are skewed one way or the other because of gender, the combined parental decisions of a gay couple are better than only one parent’s opinion or none at all. In today’s society, having both parents as decision-makers is a concept hard to come across, so having both parents, albeit the same gender, should be celebrated instead of shunned.
Parenting roles such as mother-child and father child are believed to be needed. However, homosexual parents can fill the roles of the opposite gendered parent as needed. The stereotypical father figure is the parent that overbearingly protects his daughter from boys and teaches his sons how to throw a baseball. The stereotypical mother is usually featured as babying her son and teaching her daughter how to be the ideal mother and wife. These roles both are unnecessary; parents do not have to live up to the standards and norms that are expected of them and have been expected of parents. A father and mother could flip roles if they needed. The qualities of a father and the qualities of a mother are not set in stone; a mother could teach her son to be athletic just as a father could teach his daughter how to sew. When parents have to fill a role for their children as needed, the gender of the parent should not matter. What matters is whether or not they perform their duties as parents.
Some people argue that homosexual parents can be a direct cause to a gay parent’s child’s “increas[ing] sexual confusion and sexual experimentation.” (Hansen, 2012). People fear that the children will also turn out homosexual, and want to have a same sex marriage and adopt children like their parents. This fear is almost invalid. Yes, teenagers may be more curious about their sexuality after seeing from their parents’ example that there are more untraditional options to sexuality. However, many teenagers explore sexually and feel confusion regardless of the genders of their parents. Having homosexual parents may show teenagers that having different sexual preferences of others is alright, therefore, promoting more tolerance of all types of people. Even though many people believe that having same-sex parents can create bi-curiosity in children, straight parents can also produce offspring curious about sexuality. Teenagers are raging with hormones and adrenaline, so they are going to try new and different ideas and activities, regardless of the sexual orientation of their parents.
The largest resistance against same-sex parents comes from those who are against homosexuality altogether because the sexual orientation is considered unnatural. In nature, men and women are obviously attracted to each other for a sole purpose: to find a mate and produce offspring. A homosexual couple cannot naturally on their own create a child between the two of them. To do so, they would need science and other humans capable of creating children. Even though gay couples can truly love each other and be soul mates, they do lack the ability to continue the existence of humanity. Though gay couples should be accepted because no one can help who they fall in love with (an example being girls who fawn over the stereotypical “bad boys”), they also sadly cannot produce a human child to further the human race. The best they can do is to adopt parentless children and give them the love they deserve.
Many of the problems people have with gay parents stem from fears of homosexuality in general. People believe that homosexuals will force their children to have a certain sexual orientation or that they will not give the essential love that is given by having both a mother and a father. However, straight parents are not needed in a child’s life; a child needs a parent to provide them with emotional and financial support, which is something a homosexual parent could do just as easily. Although gay parents can raise their adopted children well, they sadly cannot produce a legitimate child of their own to help continue the existence of mankind.
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