Parental Roles in Socializing Children about Dining and Manners Etiquette Socialization is the process by which knowledge, values, beliefs, and behaviors are taught to members of the community. Normsare standards of proper and acceptable behaviors.
Manners are the characteristics or customary mode of acting. Etiquette is the conduct or procedure required by good breeding or prescribed by authority to be observed in social or official life. What are the challenges from a multicultural perspective in defining norms for manners and dining etiquette for families in the USA? There are a wide variety of ethnic groups in this country and it would be difficult to define a norm for manners and etiquette and expect all groups to follow it because they all are from different cultural backgrounds. What are “Manners” and do they vary depending on who you are from a socioeconomic and ethnic perspective? Manners are ways of behaving in reference to polite standards. I don’t think that manners directly have anything to do with your socioeconomic status nor your ethnic background because we are all usually taught about manners at an early age.
I feel that that perhaps the occasional rudeness that comes along with the upper class was developed later, not taught. Describe your first memory of your parent(s) providing expectations/guidelines for you or other family members regarding the use of appropriate behavior related to dining and manners in the home and outside the home at restaurants, school, family gatherings and etc.? As a child, I remember having to sit down at the table with my brothers for all of our meals. And at my grandmother’s house, we couldn’t move from the table until everything was gone from our plates. How was it a pleasant or punitive experience? In what ways did it have a lasting impact and in what way does it continue to influence you today? This all taught me the importance of family and it also forced us to talk to each other, which I think is a missing component in today’s family.
I started my children off in this manner but once they became older, everyone ate at different times because of school and work. I feel that my family doesn’t spend enough time together. We try to have family game nights about twice a month. Reflecting on your knowledge base from your Human Behavior classes and other prior Social Work classes and General Education experiences, when and how should parents begin to educate and train children about proper dining and manners etiquette? Parents should begin to educate and train their children about proper dining and manners etiquette as soon as they are able to pick up a cup or a utensil and sit at the table. These instructions could begin with simple steps for not using your fingers, not placing your elbows on the table, covering your mouth when coughing, using a napkin, etc. What is the responsibility of the parent in socializing a child to adhere to the norms and customs required to dine outside of the home, even if they are different from the family norms?
It is the parent’s sole responsibility to ensure that their children understand and adhere to society’s norms and customs while dining outside of the home, even if it’s different from the family because in today’s society the most important thing is to be socially acceptable. Discuss the pros and cons of this responsibility being limited to just the parents and school teachers, neighbors, church members and leaders’ involvement in giving children directions? The ultimate responsible party for directing a child is the parent because it’s their child even though the child spends the majority of his/her meals with the teachers. That teacher is responsible for 25-30 children and can only reinforce what has already been instilled. What are possible consequences for the child if this socialization has not occurred and they are unable to adhere to societal expectations? If socialization has not occurred with a child and they are unable to follow society’s rules, the public may give strange looks to the child and parents and even request that they leave the establishments. Give an example from your experience or as told to you.
There is an unwritten rule that you are to sit down while you eat. However, I’ve parents say that they leave the plate on the table and lil’ Johnny can come back as he wishes. Well, I’ve witnessed this first hand. A plate left on the table and the child roaming the restaurant. It’s not cute. A child needs to sit with the family, in a booster seat if necessary and eat. Reference Albert Bandura’s Theory on Modeling and Coaching in our second text, “Introduction to Generalist Practice” and/or other references. Relate to the concept that learning can be “taught and caught”. Manners and etiquette are taught and caught I can remember wanting to do everything that my cousins and friends did, as a child. I see my nieces and nephews playing with each other and mocking after one another.
If one wants a sandwich, the other wants one. When one prays before eating, the other will. If one has to use the restroom, they all have to use the restroom. But I also feel that some of these positive behaviors can be taught. In considering the impact of the environment on behavior, how is the parental role in socialization impacted by the diversity factor of a single parent home? Relate to Family Systems Theory. A single parent has the role of both father and mother and within its boundaries, family norms must be established. How does poverty impact the socialization of children?
Poverty should not affect a child’s socialization skills because he/she will still be around other adults and children regardless of their parent’s financial status. However, the lack of funds may differentiate how the child acts in Ruth’s Chris, when they are used to going to McDonald’s. It goes back to the person in their environment. I have been in low income housing and once you walk through the doors, you would never know that you were in the “projects” because we should never judge a book by its cover. And therefore if parents teach children not to run wild in place like McDonalds and Chuck E Cheese, then when the child is introduced to fine dining, they will act accordingly. It’s called generalization. What are resources that you would recommend be developed for families raising children in low income communities? Funding is so limited across the board but children are my priority.
I used to work for Parks and Rec in Portsmouth. There were only a few centers that were funded to provide free meals for children. A lot of our children, who came to the center, were latchkey kids because they were from a single family home and they were practically raising themselves. I would increase meals and provide more free activities at the local recreation centers. What are 5 resources (printed, groups, individual sessions, internet resources/sites and etc.) and 2 organizations (provide contact info) that currently exist in the community to guide parents in socialization related to teaching dining and manners etiquette? Five resources that assist parents with teaching dining and manners etiquette are JumpStart.com, Parents Magazine, Life 123, Scholastic, and TeacherPlanet.com One organization that will also assist with teaching manners is your local W.I.C. office, which is usually located in or near the Virginia Department of Health in your city.
Another organization is your local social services, where nutrition classes are taught. Considering your future role as a Generalist social Work Practitioner using the GIM, what are some Social Work community service settings/organizations where Social Workers will work and will have an opportunity to highlight the parental role of socialization? As a future Generalist Social Work Practitioner, I will have the opportunity to focus on the parental role as I use the GIM in a school or hospital setting, as a court advocate, in private counseling or in any human services setting working directly with children. What are your recommendations for the creation of new resources and/or advocacy for policy changes related to funding to address a gap in services related to the socialization of children?
Recently, my mother obtained joint custody of my two nephews and she was also granted physical custody so that the children would be allowed to go to school from her home. My oldest nephew has been displaying some behaviors issues in and out of school, which has prompted the attention of the school administration. He was referred for counseling, Ycap and other assistance but the second question after asking for his social security number was what was his Medicaid number? The children do not have Medicaid, therefore he does not qualify. I would develop programs that all children would be eligible for regardless of their insurance or lack thereof.