To define a perfect family, one must first define the question: what is a perfect family. A family is “Two or more people who share goals and values, have long-term commitments to one another, and reside usually in the same dwelling place.” This means that they are normally related people who live together and support and look after each other. The word “perfect” however, has no real limit. It means “Lacking nothing essential to the whole; complete of its nature or kind.”
However, nobody can lay out rules for perfection. One person might define a perfect family as “people without arguments” whereas another person might say that a perfect family needs to have an IQ of 250 and have superhuman powers. Even the first ever family – Adam, Eve, Cain and Abel is bad as Cain murders Abel. Is this perfection? Does a perfect family actually exist? The aim of this essay is to find out if there is a perfect family, what is needed for perfection and what qualities are needed. Below are the necessary qualities that a family needs. They do not mean that a family is perfect, but mean that the family has a good chance of staying together.
Families must have a loving relationship. There is no point in living with someone that you hate. There is normally a close link between closely related people. This is the bare minimum – if a family doesn’t have some sort of relationship then it will almost definitely not be a family.
Families must also help and support one another when help is needed. All people go through bad times and need support and TLC. Families keep together and strengthen their bond when they support and help each other.
As stated earlier, the word “perfect” has no limits or set rules. This means that there is no exact definition for a perfect family. I myself however; believe that all families have arguments and nobody is perfect. My own definition might be something like “a group of people, usually with the same dwelling, who always stay together and help each other.”
So what other qualities are needed to be “perfect?” One quality would be putting the needs of others before you and realising that others are the priority now. If people did not do this, then families would argue very often and break their relationship.
Another quality that would be very useful is responsibility. People must learn the consequences of the actions of others. “Am I my brother’s keeper?” They must realise that everyone must do their duty in a family and that others’ actions will be good/bad for them.
A very important quality to have a good family is to respect others’ views/wishes. In a family everyone should be treated equally. Arguments should be solved civilisedly and nobody should be put down/ignored – this only leads to jealousy.
Families need to care for and look after each other. People need emotional help at bad times and everyone gets ill. Families need to show that they truly care- this strengthens the relationship.
Families need good communication. People should not be secretive and keep everything private – most people need someone to talk to and share happiness/sadness with. Bad communication leads to families not understanding each other.
Sharing is a quality that is very useful. Whether it is sharing toys or sharing emotions, all families should share time together. Most families share homes – this strengthens the family relationship, as does all sharing.
People should understand each other in a family. People must learn to live with others and understand the anger or bad moods of others. They must understand that nobody is perfect and that everybody is only human.
There are many things that a good/perfect family does not want to have. One is greed. If people are greedy then they do not think about others – only what they want. This leads to hate – which can lead to families splitting apart.
Jealousy is a large culprit. Jealousy can lead to people hating each other and arguments. Jealousy is caused by people thinking themselves better than others: boasting and putting people down both lead to jealousy.
People that are egotistical always think about themselves. They are normally selfish and only care about what they want to do or what they have achieved. Egotism leads to people arguing about time and money. Egotistical people think that they are superior in everything.
Tempestuous people are violent and quick tempered. This can lead to physical arguments. It is hard to change a tempestuous person, but people can learn to control their temper and think before they act.
People in a family mustn’t also be selfish. This is when people only do things for themselves – they only help others if they see something in it for themselves. This is like egotism, but egotism is when people think more about aims and achievements.
People should not be materialistic. A person who loves money cannot love people. Rich families have been torn up due to money. Some people kill for money – wills can cause great family conflicts.
In summary, the parts of this essay are very simple. All of the factors needed to make a perfect family are ways of bringing people closer together and strengthening relationships. The qualities that a perfect family shouldn’t have are almost opposites of the good qualities. For example, sharing is the opposite of selfishness and respecting others’ ideas is the opposite of egotism.
In conclusion, there is probably no such thing as a perfect family. No human is perfect, so it is impossible for a group of humans to be totally perfect. There is no limit to perfection. I think that the definition of a perfect family should be “A group of people with such an unbreakable bond of love that they will not separate whatever life throws at them.” This does not mean however, that a family that does not separate is perfect, nor does it mean that two people super glued together have an unbreakable bond and are therefore a perfect family. If there was a perfect family, then understanding, love and respect would almost definitely be present.